Sunday, February 3, 2008

How To Find And Work The G-Spot

Most men are probably now aware that women can have several different types of orgasms!
Experienced guys will know that the most satisfying orgasm a women can have is achieved via the G-spot. Now don't let people tell you otherwise the G-spot does exist and I'm going to tell you how to make your woman the happiest on this planet by showing you how to find, and then how to pleasure her. Here's the low-down.

First of all, the G-spot is not an actual spot, it is more of a small area, located about 2 inches inside the vagina on the topside. (On the underside of her stomach.)

Sometime it is difficult to find or locate. You should know when you have found it because it feels like a ribbed bump, a little bit like the roof of your mouth, just behind your front teeth.
Now that you've found the G-spot the next question is how should you stimulate it?
I'm going to say something here that took me a long time to appreciate. We men love to satisfy our ladies with intercourse but guess what - it's not always the best way and I'm going to tell you why.

When we talk about satisfying our partner there is an awful lot of variables to be taken into consideration: to begin with there is position, there is your partners level of arousal, the size of your penis, and vaginal shape and size are also part of the bigger picture. In short: using your fingers is the easiest way to help your partner reach orgasm with the most chance of success.

But before starting to stimulate the G-spot there is a little preparation you have to go through.
In most cases, women need to have their clitoris stimulated before stimulating the G spot. In a sense this presents its own problem for once it's fully stimulated, the clitoris is often too sensitive for direct contact, the best way around this is the most direct - ask your partner, as in all things to do with lovemaking listen to what your partner is say either verbally or otherwise.
If you don't stimulate the clitoris there is a very strong possibility that the G-spot may feel dry and uncomfortable. Once the clitoris sufficiently stimulated then it's onto the G-spot!

Let's talk about the best positions to stimulate the G-spot
To really stimulate the G-spot, you'll have to get yourself into a position that gives you great easy access, and then it is time to work your magic. Here's the two positions I use most often:

1) My partner lies on her back while I lie next to her, using my stronger arm - I'm left handed so for me it's my left arm.

2) Often she'll sit doggie-style, while I'll sit and work the magic from behind.
To really set the bedroom on fire try changing from one position to another over the course of your foreplay.
Now let's talk technique.

The motion you want to use is to nice and gently use your finger as though you were calling someone to "come over here". Remember though that the G-spot is different from the clitoris, which means, in most cases, you'll stroke it slightly harder than the clitoris. Like also sorts of pleasure there is no right or wrong just start by massaging it lightly and work your way up to a point which she finds incredibly satisfying.

How to tell if she's enjoying it
First of all, remember that the best feeling will vary for every woman, so you are going to have to experiment! Take it easy and don't be afraid: try this tip, alternate between two very slight movements or spots and that should help you find what she likes best. You'll know what she likes by her breathing or when she firmly grips you. We haven't experienced full satisfaction yet, there is a way to make this experience even MORE pleasurable.

How to make the orgasm more powerful
Prolonged foreplay will intensify orgasms, no doubt! However, as I sort of indicated above we men often focus so much on "performing" that we forget about spicing up our lovemaking with new and exciting things. Let's face it; most of us are guilty of this. You take your clothes off. Away you go, and, you are in and out within a few seconds or minutes, the routine is over you roll over and go to sleep! Sound familiar?

Is it any wonder that the magic begins to fade, there is only one partner receiving any sort of satisfaction and when you know what's actually on offer even that very limited? Is it any wonder it becomes harder and harder to make woman achieve orgasms. Perhaps more than we men they enjoy variety in their sexual experience. The very best way to please women long-term is to have an entire 'bag of ideas' ready to pull out whenever they're needed. I cannot stress the need to keep your lovemaking fresh and exciting in every way. That's the secret to fulfilled lovemaking.

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